Give children smart toys suitable for children, but you still need to teach your child an important skill: Self-play skills.
Self-play is important for a child’s development. It is just as important as the baby knows how to play in groups, with other friends. When children know how to play, they will increase creativity, think of new ways to play without the help of adults.
Arrange for Your Child to Be Alone
Many parents think that they always need to be with their children. Especially, since they know so much about autism, parents are even more worried about leaving the baby alone.
However, unlike you might think, babies don’t need their parents around 24/24 like that – unless they’re babies. From 2 years old, he can play by himself.
Self-play is not at a disadvantage if it is well organized and has a suitable time limit. Because the process of self-play will help children become more independent. For children 2 years and older, you should start designing a fixed amount of play time for your baby. For example, when it’s time to cook dinner, arrange for your baby to play in a safe cage, under your control.
Prepare Suitable Toys
First of all is safety. The things that let children play by themselves have been carefully considered, convinced that it does not pose any risk to your baby when you leave him alone.
Does the toy have small, removable parts that make it easy to put in your mouth, ears, or nostrils?
Is the toy too heavy for your baby to lift, making it easy for him to drop his limbs during play?
Does the toy have small round holes that make it easy for your finger to insert and not know how to remove?
Ask lots of questions for yourself about possible situations, you will choose the toys to help your baby play safely.
Next, toys for children to play need to help stimulate creativity and make them not get bored quickly. For example, a set of clay or a set of crayons will help your child spend a few dozen minutes devotedly creating “works” of his own taste.
Space for Children to Play
Letting children play by themselves does not mean that they do not want to do anything. You need to create a private, quiet, safe space for your baby’s interests and psychology.
For example, you can choose a wide corner, crib to your baby not to go out but create enough comfortable space for your baby in it “build” a private world. Can cushion to prevent baby from falling. A small tent (a toy tent for children) can be set up so that your child can feel his own “home”. You can put in some “friend” that you like a teddy bear, doll. Your baby will enjoy playing without your help.
The play space for children needs to achieve the following factors:
No power outlets. No water.
Not easy to fall.
Not out of safety control (for example, never let children play space on the balcony).
No sharp objects such as the edge of the table or chair.
Mom easily observes children from not far away.
Show Children How to Play
Many children have the ability to play innately. Usually, these are children who have a very good imagination and they can create a “living” space with lots of different stories with just a few tiny toys.
Children will certainly be worried when they have to play by themselves because they do not know what to do now, they need a guide. You may not know how to assemble this lego or wear a new dress doll. So, please show me how to put lego pieces together, how to observe instructions on how to assemble a lego (like a map), and encourage me to try what I can think of ( if I cannot install a trailer, I can install a more simple truck, for example). Once you are able to complete a lego, you will be interested in the rest, because you believe that they can be made even without a parent next door.
Do Not Let Children Play with Electronic Devices
Encouraging children to play by themselves does not mean that you find ways … “enticing” your baby to sit still so that you can be assured of other things. Many let me play by turning on the TV, telling them to sit there watching cartoons or turn on the iPad and just let me play with the games on the iPad.
At this time, it is clear that children also sit still, also “play” but this is not a good way. Working with such devices makes children passive, dependent only on fixed interactions and not developing their imagination and language skills.
So let the children play the games with movement, dexterity, stimulating imagination, mother!
Establish a Rule for Cleaning Toys after Playing
Mom arranges the toys in the right position and name each corner of the toy. If you have finished playing the nature corner, you should arrange the toys in the right place, then let’s explore the animal corner. Then ask me if I can find her an ambulance? Ambulance, take your cat for a health examination, make sure you give your cat water and eat…
In this way, she taught me how to recognize items and the uses of each item, and taught me the rules for storing toys in the right place. Teaching children to play alone is not difficult, just be patient and love the mother is enough!
Give Children the Right to Make Choices and Decisions
By letting your baby choose the games he/she likes, moms will make him happier to have to play alone when he’s busy.
Parents also remember that a child’s ability to play alone depends on their temperament. There are children who can not play alone, the mother does not force but must try twice. In addition, the fact that I play alone also depends on the baby’s condition: a child who is hungry, tired or sick does not want to play alone, Mom! Therefore, parents need to have patience and direction. guide your skills of playing alone into a habit of your child early. Over time, you will develop your ability to play independently and this skill is very beneficial when you go to school, work, in the future.